A chaotic attempt at being cosy and stylish at the same time

Novembrrrre. The cold season. The month where Christmas lights start appearing even though no one asked, and you suddenly remember that the “omg I have nothing to wear” moment from October wasn’t dramatic — it was a warning.

But this is also when the cosy season actually becomes fun.
Wishlist season. Soup-as-identity season. The coat you swear you won’t buy but will absolutely end up buying anyway.
The real question is: how do we make freezing look intentional?

Start with socks.
November is red-sock month. I saw someone wearing bright red ones last year and I still think about her. That’s the kind of ankle confidence I want. Maybe I’ll try it.

Jewellery helps too.
Necklaces and bracelets — stack, stack, stack.
If you don’t make a little gling gling noise when you walk, you’re not in your November era yet.
Brown, black, navy — suddenly everything works with gold or silver.

And honestly, November is also the month where gold suddenly works with EVERYTHING.
Golden details literally become a survival mechanism.
Pants with a brown shirt? Works.
A golden blazer? Works.
And the gold loafers? The ones from Rubirosa — absolute insanity.
That shop is already giving full Christmas vibes, like the kind where you walk in “just to look” and magically walk out with something sparkly you definitely didn’t plan to buy.

This is the time of year where you can basically decorate yourself like a human Christmas tree and somehow it makes sense.
November is when “too much” stops being too much. Add another ring, add another necklace, add something shiny for no reason. If there’s a month where you can pull it off, it’s this one.

Then there’s the home-uniform part of November.
Nothing beats coming home after a long day, keeping your shirt on, and immediately putting on flannel pyjama pants. Elite move. It makes no sense but is emotionally correct. You go to the épicerie like this because November is the only month where no one will judge you.
I briefly considered doing a dry November but honestly… who the hell does that?. The month is for tea, wine, and warm savoury food. Rotation is key.

Good knits obviously help. That’s not news.
But November is also that funny in-between month where you start decorating, but not seriously. It’s playful. It’s soft. It’s the calm before the storm, and maybe that’s why it’s the best season.

And then: tights.
Ever since I saw that ad with Leandra, I keep thinking that funky tights with a dress could actually work. It’s giving main character in a cold climate. I might try it. If not, at least the idea is cute.

But let’s talk about the real villain of the season: scarves.

For years I believed looking good meant being cold. In high school I left the house in a single hoodie like I was immune to temperatures. Now I wear tights, socks, jeans, thermals under thermals — and I’m not ashamed.
But the scarf… the scarf is still unsolved.

Do I wrap it around my neck and become the Michelin man (yes, I know what that is), or freeze and pretend it’s fine? The ones from Kujten — I can’t see them anymore. Patterned scarves — no. The giant ones make you look like a confused cat lady the second you take them off. The hair, the proportions, the absolute chaos. It’s never chic.
Maybe the answer is a plain, basic scarf with no motives. Boring, safe, reliable. A scarf that does its job without ruining your life.

Meanwhile, proper layering is undefeated:
T-shirt + turtleneck + shirt + necklaces.
Warm, cute, non-suffocating. Always a win.

And then there’s hosting.
Host, host, host.
November is the best hosting month of the entire year. It’s calm. No one is overbooked yet. No one expects a perfect table or a complicated menu. A few candles, warm food, a bottle of wine — success.
It’s also peak cancel-plans season. Unless someone says “coffee shop” or “wine on a Sunday,” I’m not leaving my house. November is all about choosing your comfort.

I used to hate Christmas — partly the outfits, partly the cold — but it doesn’t have to be like that this year. November is the soft launch. The warm-up. The month where you set the tone before December takes over.

Wear the funky tights. Try the red socks. Stack your necklaces. Add the gold details. Drink your wine. And leave the massive scarves at home.

November is the calm before the storm — but it’s also the vibe before the vibe.

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